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Long Overdue Letter to an Estranged Mother

5/11/2014

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Dear Mom,

I know our relationship has not been a close one for a very long time. I realized we have only seen each other three times in the last twenty-five years. I’m not entirely certain why this is, but it is not your fault. After the pain and difficulty of my childhood, I just wanted to leave it all behind and, unfortunately, I think that in the process I left you behind as well. The physical distance between us made it hard to reconnect. When you add in our very different views on the world and religion and right and wrong, it felt impossible. But with all of that being said, I just wanted to take this letter to thank you. 

Thank you for nurturing my love of words and buying me all the books I could read. That reading led to my becoming a writer. Thank you for the multitude of opportunities you gave me growing up in the form of dance, piano, riding, gymnastics and other lessons. Thank you for always taking an interest in my education and making sure I had the supplies and support I needed to learn and complete all my school projects like: my wonderful costumes for “I Love to Read” Day and plays; art supplies for poster and pumpkin decorating contests; and gifts for favorite teachers. Thank you for pushing me to be better and believing that I could accomplish great things. Thank you for taking time to drive me to my many activities even when they were miles away from Mt. Sterling. Thank you for putting together scrapbooks and saving my memories. Thank you for getting me involved in Girl Scouts and sending me to summer camps where I gained independence, met new people, and learned new skills. Thank you for always attending my pageants, performances, and programs. 

Thank you for dressing me up and putting me on the church bus every Sunday. The faith I found in Sunday school as a child is still with me. And though my spirituality is not traditional, my relationship with God is strong and alive. Thank you for the research and hours you spent helping me fill out college applications, scholarship forms, and financial aid so I could attend a university. Thank you for making certain I always had stylish, clean clothes and a comfortable bedroom. Thank you for the beautiful birthday cakes you had decorated for me each year. Thank you for exposing me to music and filling our house with your song. Thank you for making me use good grammar and not use “at” to end a sentence. Most of all, thank you for loving me even when I was difficult and distant. 

In closing, I just want to say that although we don’t speak often, you are in my thoughts and prayers. And I will always love you and be ever so grateful for all of the things you did back then to make my life as wonderful as it is now. I hope each day of the rest of your life is filled with peace, prosperity, health, and joy. Happy Mother's Day.

Your Daughter, 
Donna

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Tanya Torp
5/11/2014 09:03:15 am

Brave

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Roseann T. Kriebel
5/11/2014 09:13:29 am

Dear Donna~~~Thank you for the gift of sharing a raw heart, a heart dedicated to finding the blessings.

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Eleisha
5/11/2014 09:24:30 am

I think that's one the most beautiful tribute to a mother I've ever read. I only wish I had your way with words to present them to my mother, who I see sometimes twice daily. Yet I've never been able to articulate my love and affection nearly as completely as this letter. You go girl! love you Ms. Donna

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pat michaux
5/11/2014 10:38:24 am

Sometimes it takes many adult years to push through the pain of our young lives, regardless of our present feelings about the past. HOWEVER, if we push, push, keep pushing through the pain of the past and dwell on the positive of the past and present,we learn that forgiveness is an option that will free us from past pain and allow us to move forward in a more positive way, toward being the best person we can be in this short span of time we call life.
As Mother Teresa said, in "Do It Anyways",...... "The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; do good anyway.Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough; Give the world the best you've got anyway.You see, in the final analysis it is between you and God; it was never between you and them anyway."
I care....

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Chance
5/11/2014 10:43:44 am

I remember meeting your mother at your sisters house. I remember how stressful the night was for you. I am so glad to see you at peace with her and have found a way to be grateful. This was quite lovely.

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scott h turner
5/11/2014 11:07:46 am

Wow. I don't think I could have written this. Thank you.

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Melissa H.
5/15/2014 02:47:01 pm

Oh Donna. I loved it and winced too. My relationship with my mother is very similar. They choose a backwater voodoo religion and Patriarchy over common sense. We could have long chats I'm sure.

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